First of all, being honest is never something anyone should apologize for. So I'm going to respond with the same kind of honesty (from my perspective).
Since you've made the 'bar' Extremeskins... there's ONE reason that site was so 'busy'.... it was the 'Official Messageboard of the Washington Redskins'. For a number of years, ES was promoted actively on the Redskins website and via other marketing tools. No privately owned forum or website could ever compete with that advantage, no matter what the quality.
That's it.
When ES began, there were a thousand other more meaningful reasons it became a mecca for Redskins fans. The quality and energy of the owners and staff. The obvious effort to create an innovative place for Washington fans to gather. If we're being honest, Bang! cartoons drove a ton of traffic to early ES and created the kind of numbers that attracted the team to it. Later on though, after the team took over the site, folks flocked to the site not because of the quality of the site, but because it was the team forum and easy to find. Ironically, the team never cared much about the site, what it looked like, what the user experience was like, or what the tone of the moderators there was. Fortunately for ES, the one biggest asset they had - a diverse and energetic group of loyal members - kept it the #1 Washington football site. But even ES has been impacted by the shifting whims of the internet-browsing public in recent years.
Forums are the original internet community entity but they have seen a huge decline. I've been a frequent visitor to the most popular forums over the years, and even on mega-forums, threads languished and traffic diminished. It's just what happened. Over the years, with the explosion of Facebook, Twitter, and other social media sites, all forums - even Extremeskins - saw their traffic plummet. Most folks don't want to invest in a website. They want to click an icon on their phone, scan what's going on, make a driveby post, and move on.
10-15 years ago, there were tens of thousands of forums, centered on every topic imaginable. Nowadays, only those truly determined and committed remain. And for those that do persist and remain, they do so because they believe that the family owned Italian restaurant on the corner is a better experience than grabbing a Big Mac and fries at McDonalds.
We don't want to be McDonalds, or Twitter, or Reddit. We have a community here and regardless of size, it matters to those of us involved in it.
So my bottom line response to your comments is, thanks for the feedback, but we've been at this since 2009, and we will be at this a decade from now. We welcome anyone who wants to be a contributing member of our community. We are here and the largest most 'successful' Washington football forum ever is not.
Sometimes we will be busy. Sometimes, as in the middle of an extended losing streak, we may not be. But we will continue to be here welcoming new members, doing our thing, and making the best homemade pasta you have ever tasted.