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My advice is to find a good financial advisor with a large firm like an Ameriprise or UBS.
Don't forget a DNR (do not resuscitate) if you desire that.
The other thing that I did was document all account numbers and passwords to give my wife back when I had a cancer scare.
Trusts are the way to go if you want to apply some conditions to your will like grandkids can't receive full amount until a certain age, college is paid for them as long as they make certain grades, etc.
The final thing I did was to scope out some retirement communities with the wife in case I depart first. Now that I'm retired, we're getting ready to buy our retirement home somewhere on the water. The worry there is that something happens to me after we move which would leave my wife alone in a new town. The plan for us, is if something like that happens, then the survivor sells the new house and moves into the retirement community. Now, if she or I want to stay in the new house and forge ahead, then nothing wrong with that either but at least I'll feel better knowing she has a plan.
I’m not sure that I want a DNR as I’m unsure about the parameters. Just because my heart stops seems like a bridge too far, but I will investigate further.
I do have a DECLARATION UNDER FLORIDA LIFE PROLONGING PROCEDURE ACT which will allow life preserving efforts to be discontinued if two MDs agree that there, in a terminal condition, is no medical probability of recovery. It directs my family and the attending physicians to honor it as the final expression of my legal right to refuse medical or surgical treatment and accept the consequences for such refusal.
I won't fill out a DNR until later when I'm in my 80's and things start failing. Too early now.
It sounds like you're covered and have everything planned.
Buying the grave sites might be something to consider.
I have recently gone through the process of meeting with a trust attorney. He is very pro trust (surprise, surprise). I capitulated against my inner voice and had him start the drafting of a revocable living trust, a pour-over will, a durable power of attorney, a health care surrogate, a living will, and a warranty deed for the house. The trust would require me to ‘fund’ it with my real estate, brokerage accounts, bank accounts, etc by transferring all into the trust. All a pain in the ass and, in my opinion, completely unnecessary for my situation.
My two largest assets are my investment accounts and the house. My chosen distribution percentages to my inheritors are explicitly defined by me inside of my investment company. That trumps all other estate planning; will, trust, etc and can be changed by me at any time without the need of (or payment to) an attorney.
I will add my wife to the house deed and to the vehicle titles, so that is easy peasy for her. (She is already a co-owner of all banking accounts.)
So a Final Will and Testament along with the power of attorney, health care surrogate, and living will more than suffice and make my ‘transition’ simple and painless for those I leave behind.
(As someone who never contemplated death as a possibility 😎, I have strangely found comfort in having this overdue process being finalized.)


I filed for SS at 62 due to forced ‘retirement’ and because it made no sense to me to live fully on my investments while waiting for a larger monthly benefit years down the road. My income is SS and quarterly portfolio dividends that provide all that I need and want.
I have two years of expenses set aside in MM accounts and have thusly remained on the aggressive side of the investment spectrum. Bonds have been poor performers for many years and unless you are using TIPS or buying individual bonds they are just not very good insurance against market turndowns. Despite the GFC, Covid, tariff fear, etc…I have reaped the benefit of buying and holding equity funds. I have more than enough to weather market turmoil that is always at risk of occuring.
The only debt I carry is a small, low interest mortgage. I could pay that off but don’t because I see no benefit in using money that makes a better return than the mortgage costs in order to be debt free.


I am fed up with my work situation. As the Health System I have been with since 1994 has gotten gobbled up 3 or 4 times by larger entities, each 'gobbling' bringing with it massive change (and imho, worse patient care and staff experience), I have just run out of mental flexibility. This week, on a call our physician was on, they let it slip that they planned to close our rehab unit - which is highly profitable and provides a critical need to our community. It's never been discussed with any of us - some executive just decided it was a good idea. That's how this org operates now.
Anyway, although I love the people I work with, I'm about done. I am meeting with my financial advisor next week and assuming I come out of there with a viable plan, I will hang it up in a couple of months when I turn 64. As far as SSA goes, I don't feel a few hundred more per month for each additional year worked is worth it. I have poured a ton on money into my retirement account, own my house, and have some other investments. I think we will be fine especially since we don't live an extravagant lifestyle. I may have to dial back my grocery purchases though (I know that will be a relief to RedWolf, lol...).