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I've seen a trend lately that bothers me. And it's generally at the root of most instances when usually friendly banter and discussion takes on a harsher tone, and the camaraderie we've worked so hard to grow and safeguard here seems to fall by the wayside.
The trend I'm talking about is folks deciding how people should and should not root for and respond to their team.
Being a Redskins fan right now? It's a bitch. There's not a single one of us here that isn't frustrated, down, depressed, or at the very least irritated with another swirling down the toilet bowl, regressing season. We are all fans. We all want wins, success, and even the prospect at least of glory. We ALL do.
But it's a tough time to believe. It's tough to believe in the players on this team. It's tough to believe in our coaching staff. It's tough to believe our owner will ever, ever figure out how to put together a winning organization again.
It's tough.
My friends and I, we run a Redskins fan website. We spend a lot of time and money running it. A lot. And if even we are struggling (hand raised here - some more than others) to stay positive, upbeat, optimistic, and hopeful, that must mean that it's pretty hard to be any of those things currently. When it comes to the Redskins, it really is what it is.
The staff reflect the general membership here believe it or not. Some are over the top negative (hand, again, raised). Some are calm and rational (well, at least Om is). Some have distanced themselves from the live action out of self-protection. There may even be one or two of us vaguely optimistic things will work out.
But the point is - we are all different. And we are all the same. Our sameness lies in our love of this team, what it meant to us growing up, the amazing memories many of us have of barely memorable past glories - we are all great fans. If we were not, we could not possibly sustain the time, effort, and energy it takes to be here. Our differences lie only in how we respond to the failures of this franchise.
So I'm going to give some tough love here - and it applies to everyone - me, you, staff and members alike. Stop judging your fellow fans. It's none of your damn business how a fellow BGO member copes with 3 win seasons and epic suckitude. They're them, you're you - know the difference. If I want to rant and rail and howl at the moon about my horrible NFL franchise, that's what I ought to be able to do. If I want to reassure everyone that everything is on the right track and wins are just around the corner, that's what I ought to be able to do. In the words of a very wise 3 year old you can find on Facebook or You Tube, worry about YOURSELF. Of all the problems with the Washington Redskins, how fans deal with failure is not among the top 100. When encountering a fellow member from the opposite perspective (ie...optimistic or pessimistic, calm and reasoning or angry and irrational), stop judging their fandom because they aren't responding the way you are. Stop correcting them. Stop mocking them. Stop trying to muzzle them.
Because, honestly, it's for those differences in response and viewpoint that this ****ing website exists. Otherwise, what really is the point?
We've all been guilty of this at some point in the past 2 years. It needs to stop. If someone is over the line, needs to be talked off a ledge, or just plain hushed, trust me, the staff here will do it. And if one of us needs some tough love, one of our peers will manage that too.
One of the inevitabilities of human nature is that, when we can't explain, come to terms with, or address the source of our pain, we lash out at those close to us. It's what humans do. But we shouldn't do it. And we certainly shouldn't do it here. When the food runs out, there are other alternatives to clubbing the guy next to you and feasting on his soul.
Don't be a cannibal. In the words of a friend of mine....
Just sayin'
The trend I'm talking about is folks deciding how people should and should not root for and respond to their team.
Being a Redskins fan right now? It's a bitch. There's not a single one of us here that isn't frustrated, down, depressed, or at the very least irritated with another swirling down the toilet bowl, regressing season. We are all fans. We all want wins, success, and even the prospect at least of glory. We ALL do.
But it's a tough time to believe. It's tough to believe in the players on this team. It's tough to believe in our coaching staff. It's tough to believe our owner will ever, ever figure out how to put together a winning organization again.
It's tough.
My friends and I, we run a Redskins fan website. We spend a lot of time and money running it. A lot. And if even we are struggling (hand raised here - some more than others) to stay positive, upbeat, optimistic, and hopeful, that must mean that it's pretty hard to be any of those things currently. When it comes to the Redskins, it really is what it is.
The staff reflect the general membership here believe it or not. Some are over the top negative (hand, again, raised). Some are calm and rational (well, at least Om is). Some have distanced themselves from the live action out of self-protection. There may even be one or two of us vaguely optimistic things will work out.
But the point is - we are all different. And we are all the same. Our sameness lies in our love of this team, what it meant to us growing up, the amazing memories many of us have of barely memorable past glories - we are all great fans. If we were not, we could not possibly sustain the time, effort, and energy it takes to be here. Our differences lie only in how we respond to the failures of this franchise.
So I'm going to give some tough love here - and it applies to everyone - me, you, staff and members alike. Stop judging your fellow fans. It's none of your damn business how a fellow BGO member copes with 3 win seasons and epic suckitude. They're them, you're you - know the difference. If I want to rant and rail and howl at the moon about my horrible NFL franchise, that's what I ought to be able to do. If I want to reassure everyone that everything is on the right track and wins are just around the corner, that's what I ought to be able to do. In the words of a very wise 3 year old you can find on Facebook or You Tube, worry about YOURSELF. Of all the problems with the Washington Redskins, how fans deal with failure is not among the top 100. When encountering a fellow member from the opposite perspective (ie...optimistic or pessimistic, calm and reasoning or angry and irrational), stop judging their fandom because they aren't responding the way you are. Stop correcting them. Stop mocking them. Stop trying to muzzle them.
Because, honestly, it's for those differences in response and viewpoint that this ****ing website exists. Otherwise, what really is the point?
We've all been guilty of this at some point in the past 2 years. It needs to stop. If someone is over the line, needs to be talked off a ledge, or just plain hushed, trust me, the staff here will do it. And if one of us needs some tough love, one of our peers will manage that too.
One of the inevitabilities of human nature is that, when we can't explain, come to terms with, or address the source of our pain, we lash out at those close to us. It's what humans do. But we shouldn't do it. And we certainly shouldn't do it here. When the food runs out, there are other alternatives to clubbing the guy next to you and feasting on his soul.
Don't be a cannibal. In the words of a friend of mine....
Just sayin'