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Very proud of my son today, but also worried. My daughter is 10, and my son is 5. There are a lot of kids in the neighborhood here that range in age from 3-16. Usually, the whole group plays together out in our cul de sac with no issues. But recently, this family moved in a few doors down with a son who's an antagonizing and instigating little pain in the ass. He is constantly getting the kids to play rougher and rougher to the point someone always gets hurt and cries. Lately, he's been getting worse, like trying to get the younger kids to hurt each other. I actually think he gets off on it.
This kid has no father, and is living with his mom and grandma. He's 15 years old, and I would be willing to bet a felon in the very near future, the kid is a total sociopath. In the few weeks he's lived here, he has put rocks through windows, threatened to kill his mom, and hit the principal. His mom and grandma don't do a damn thing when someone complains and write it off as kids being kids
Today, all the kids were outside playing football like they always do. I was working on the mower in the garage and my son was helping me. I started hearing a lot of commotion a little further up the street and turned to see what it was, and it looked like a brawl. Then I heard my daughter screaming and crying for help. Apparently this older kid had talked a group of the 12-15 year olds into just beating up the the younger kids, all of which are 6-10 years old. It was 7 older kids, and 4 smaller ones. One of the boys pushed my daughter off of her bike and was dragging her across the street as she was yelling and crying. I was on my back at the time, so while I was trying to hobble my way to my feet as quick as I could, my son took off down there and just started to roundhouse kids left and right.
So I'm hobbling down the street yelling to try to break it all up, and while my son is punching one kid in the side of the head, the kid's friend pulls my son off of him by his neck and throws him into the yard. It was like I was going in super slow motion and they were getting further away every step I took. My son hopped back up as my daughter was trying to get away and got tackled by another boy, and my son chased down the boy and started to pulverize this kid's face relentlessly until he let go of my daughter.
When I got there and tried to pull my son off the kid, he was just mercilessly beating this kid's head in like he was trying to kill him, and he was completely enraged like I have never seen in any child before. Even when I got him off the kid, he was swinging his hands and feet wildly to get to him again. As I was carrying my son home and walking with my daughter, these kids were talking **** to me saying, "you can't do **** bitch, we're kids, **** you."
What the hell has happened to kids these days? When I was a kid, a parent coming out made you run, now they talk ****. So I told the older kid that threw my son into the yard I was gonna follow him home and beat the **** out of his dad and let him explain why. He left, but the others started in until I told them I was gonna let my son continue at it if they didn't leave. They slowly but surely left within a few minutes, talking **** the whole time. As if that isn't bad enough, why would any teenager beat the crap out of little kids for fun? It's truly sickening to think about.
I still don't know what started it all, and a bunch of neighbors were telling me to call the cops since in VA the parents can be arrested for the actions of their child, but I don't see why someone should go to jail because their kids suck. That, and I think being a teenager and almost getting put in the hospital by a 5 year old is embarrassing enough. One thing is for sure though, if it happens again, some parents will be opening their door to an ass beating. The problem with these kids is definitely their parents though. Over the past year or so, every time one of them does something messed up, and someone over here tells the parents, they brush it off like it's no big deal.
One example is the animal killing. We have dozens of ducks in the neighborhood at any given time. When they have babies, it's usually 10-15 at a time, and the kids around here love them and feed them all the time. These older kids come from the neighborhood one street up the road, and their big thrill is to see how many of the babies they can chase down and stomp to death. We're talking future serial killers here. They've been reported a lot of times for it, but nothing is ever done to stop it. Then they constantly vandalize things and get ratted out by other kids, but the police always say if we can't prove it, then it didn't happen. Apparently 5-10 kids witnessing it doesn't matter for anything.
Anyway, one thing that's still eating at me is how my son responded. I am extremely glad that he was so quick and eager to react to help out his big sister, but he doesn't seem to realize that these kids are a lot bigger than he is. He is really tough for his age, almost freakishly so, but he can't keep thinking that just because he's put 3 bigger kids on their ass with little effort in the last few months that it will always be like that. Not only that, the rage he had kinda worries me. I am almost certain it was a reaction to seeing his sister being attacked, but there is no way to be sure about it. When I was 8, a kid in our neighborhood chased after my sister with a bat and hit her in the head with it and knocked her out because he thought she was the girl who just beat his sister up. This kid was 14 and my sister was 10. I thought she was dead, so I literally tried to beat the kid to death with my fists until his brother choked me out to get me off of him. So I know from experience that you can snap in a situation like that to protect family, I just hope it was a reaction to the situation and not something more.
He is pretty undersized for his age, but the kid is brutal and fearless when he gets picked on and doesn't let anybody of any size get away with anything just because he's small. For anyone who has had to deal with a son that can get too physical, is there any way to help him control it? He never watches wrestling, boxing, MMA, etc. and doesn't get it from movies or behavior in our home, so I don't even know where he learned the things he can do. The craziest part is, he is normally the sweetest and most harmless kid in the world, and is friends with everyone. Also, when it's a kid his age acting too rough, he just goes with the flow or walks away and it's a non issue. It's just something about these bigger kids messing with him or his sister that really sets him off and makes him lose it. I just worry that it might escalate, because I don't know if it's just his defense mechanism or what.
Any advice?
This kid has no father, and is living with his mom and grandma. He's 15 years old, and I would be willing to bet a felon in the very near future, the kid is a total sociopath. In the few weeks he's lived here, he has put rocks through windows, threatened to kill his mom, and hit the principal. His mom and grandma don't do a damn thing when someone complains and write it off as kids being kids
Today, all the kids were outside playing football like they always do. I was working on the mower in the garage and my son was helping me. I started hearing a lot of commotion a little further up the street and turned to see what it was, and it looked like a brawl. Then I heard my daughter screaming and crying for help. Apparently this older kid had talked a group of the 12-15 year olds into just beating up the the younger kids, all of which are 6-10 years old. It was 7 older kids, and 4 smaller ones. One of the boys pushed my daughter off of her bike and was dragging her across the street as she was yelling and crying. I was on my back at the time, so while I was trying to hobble my way to my feet as quick as I could, my son took off down there and just started to roundhouse kids left and right.
So I'm hobbling down the street yelling to try to break it all up, and while my son is punching one kid in the side of the head, the kid's friend pulls my son off of him by his neck and throws him into the yard. It was like I was going in super slow motion and they were getting further away every step I took. My son hopped back up as my daughter was trying to get away and got tackled by another boy, and my son chased down the boy and started to pulverize this kid's face relentlessly until he let go of my daughter.
When I got there and tried to pull my son off the kid, he was just mercilessly beating this kid's head in like he was trying to kill him, and he was completely enraged like I have never seen in any child before. Even when I got him off the kid, he was swinging his hands and feet wildly to get to him again. As I was carrying my son home and walking with my daughter, these kids were talking **** to me saying, "you can't do **** bitch, we're kids, **** you."
What the hell has happened to kids these days? When I was a kid, a parent coming out made you run, now they talk ****. So I told the older kid that threw my son into the yard I was gonna follow him home and beat the **** out of his dad and let him explain why. He left, but the others started in until I told them I was gonna let my son continue at it if they didn't leave. They slowly but surely left within a few minutes, talking **** the whole time. As if that isn't bad enough, why would any teenager beat the crap out of little kids for fun? It's truly sickening to think about.
I still don't know what started it all, and a bunch of neighbors were telling me to call the cops since in VA the parents can be arrested for the actions of their child, but I don't see why someone should go to jail because their kids suck. That, and I think being a teenager and almost getting put in the hospital by a 5 year old is embarrassing enough. One thing is for sure though, if it happens again, some parents will be opening their door to an ass beating. The problem with these kids is definitely their parents though. Over the past year or so, every time one of them does something messed up, and someone over here tells the parents, they brush it off like it's no big deal.
One example is the animal killing. We have dozens of ducks in the neighborhood at any given time. When they have babies, it's usually 10-15 at a time, and the kids around here love them and feed them all the time. These older kids come from the neighborhood one street up the road, and their big thrill is to see how many of the babies they can chase down and stomp to death. We're talking future serial killers here. They've been reported a lot of times for it, but nothing is ever done to stop it. Then they constantly vandalize things and get ratted out by other kids, but the police always say if we can't prove it, then it didn't happen. Apparently 5-10 kids witnessing it doesn't matter for anything.
Anyway, one thing that's still eating at me is how my son responded. I am extremely glad that he was so quick and eager to react to help out his big sister, but he doesn't seem to realize that these kids are a lot bigger than he is. He is really tough for his age, almost freakishly so, but he can't keep thinking that just because he's put 3 bigger kids on their ass with little effort in the last few months that it will always be like that. Not only that, the rage he had kinda worries me. I am almost certain it was a reaction to seeing his sister being attacked, but there is no way to be sure about it. When I was 8, a kid in our neighborhood chased after my sister with a bat and hit her in the head with it and knocked her out because he thought she was the girl who just beat his sister up. This kid was 14 and my sister was 10. I thought she was dead, so I literally tried to beat the kid to death with my fists until his brother choked me out to get me off of him. So I know from experience that you can snap in a situation like that to protect family, I just hope it was a reaction to the situation and not something more.
He is pretty undersized for his age, but the kid is brutal and fearless when he gets picked on and doesn't let anybody of any size get away with anything just because he's small. For anyone who has had to deal with a son that can get too physical, is there any way to help him control it? He never watches wrestling, boxing, MMA, etc. and doesn't get it from movies or behavior in our home, so I don't even know where he learned the things he can do. The craziest part is, he is normally the sweetest and most harmless kid in the world, and is friends with everyone. Also, when it's a kid his age acting too rough, he just goes with the flow or walks away and it's a non issue. It's just something about these bigger kids messing with him or his sister that really sets him off and makes him lose it. I just worry that it might escalate, because I don't know if it's just his defense mechanism or what.
Any advice?